Ep. 104 The #1 Reason You Won’t Reach Your Goals

The #1 Reason You Won’t Reach Your Goals

It’s one thing to dream big. It’s another thing to actually have your dreams come true. So how do you get from idea to reality?

In this episode, Torie Mathis and her cohost Sean talk about how to move beyond just a good idea to actually making things happen. It takes more than wishing. More than thinking about it. More than writing it down. If you have big goals that you are ready to hit, this episode is a must for you. 

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SAF 104

Torie: [00:00:00] Are you telling your kids this because every time our kids Make-A-Wish I tell them you better tell me what you wish in. And they’re like, well, you can tell I’m the one that can make it happen.

Hey, What’s up I am Torie Mathis your host and I am here with the one and only Sean Mathis, founder of Miles Through Time Automotive Museum. 

Sean: [00:00:26] What’s going on. 

Torie: [00:00:27] You know, I really hate it that we were taught from a really young age. Like you have your birthday and you blow out your candles and what do you do and what are you not supposed to do?

Sean: [00:00:40] Tell anybody. 

Torie: [00:00:42] I’m calling bullshit today on this, I hate that we are taught that we should not tell our wishes to people by because other people have so much power to help us with whatever it is that we want. Then if you never talk about it, make it real, say it out loud. I think the chances of you actually getting what you want are severely diminished.

Sean: [00:01:10] I can see that. I really, I mean, if you think about it kind of how Miles Through Time happened, it was one of those things that, yeah. I thought of the concept we talked about it. It was like, okay, that’d be cool. And a bunch of years but we talked about it and then we wound up going out and looking at real estate and brought it up again.

And it wound up opening up an opportunity to utilize a building. And create Miles Through Time. If I would have not said anything, there would be no Miles Through Time. And I, so like talking about it is the only reason it’s here. 

Torie: [00:01:42] Absolutely. I don’t know where this comes from that, like you tell your, I hope that are you telling your kids this because every time our kids Make-A-Wish I tell them you better tell me what you’re wishing and they’re like, well, you tell I’m the one that can make it happen.

Why would you not want me to know what you wish and we’ve talked about it and stuff like that. And they’re like, oh, you’re right. Like mom has magic there. And other people in your life have magic there. That if you talk about your dreams and talk about your wishes in front of a lot of people, I think that is a way that you can make things happen.

However, There are certain people that you probably shouldn’t talk about your stuff in front of, and you know who these people are. They’re not telling you, you can’t do it or go ahead and like, leave it out with those people. And maybe that. Somewhere that it came from that if people are going to discourage you from things because there’s always, you hear about like people saying that you should work quietly and like let your work show so that you can kind of show those people like ha see what I did.

I don’t really have that in me. You have that a little bit, 

Sean: [00:02:45] A little bit. 

Torie: [00:02:46] So would you tell those people, like what you do. 

Sean: [00:02:48] No, I’d probably just remove those people from my life. 

Torie: [00:02:51] You did. So those people, you can just let them see the results, but everybody else, and especially like people that you don’t know. I think that it’s, it is an amazing opportunity that you should talk about what you want to happen. 

Sean: [00:03:03] I mean, really, it keeps it top of mind for yourself. Like if it’s doing nothing. It’s keeping it top of mind for you because you know, whether some of you can help you or not because you talk about it, it’s, you’re talking about it. So, you know, maybe you’ll be able to make something happen instead of forget all about it. 

Torie: [00:03:24] I think there’s like there’s one level of like wants and wishes and dreams and goals. And that is just to think about it. Maybe you think about it in bed at night and you’re like, man, I wish that would happen, man. I wish I could do this. So I think that’s like a really bare bones level and that kind of stuff. I mean, it’s kind of like in and out. Yeah. So you may not really take action from it. You write it down, you know, then it’s a little bit more real like you’ve put that pen to paper and you have actually like, you can see it now.

And I think that there’s more likely of a chance that it can come true. And maybe the more that you do that, the more likely it is to happen. But then when you open your mouth to somebody else beyond your dog, Your cat and actually say it and talk to somebody about it. I think that that takes it to another level.

You know, you’re talking with about 

Miles Through Time, just, you know, happening because we spoke about it Miles Through Time, being able to move to the new location, which is so much better than it was before also. Was about talking about it, you know, true. It just happened to talk to somebody that he knew that they were looking for a new location and so many doors opened. If he would have never said anything. Then it just would not have happened 

Sean: [00:04:33] Further to make it even more of a crazy story is when we had the local news guy, Paul Miller can come out to the museum then for the very first time to what the original location. Torie. And I, we actually, cause we live so far away from the museum and we had to be there so early in the morning for him to be there and we’re not used to it.

We opted to stay up in Tacoma so that we can be out at at least I could be there first thing in the morning. And then the kids could end Torie could fall or the kids , 

Torie: [00:05:02] The kids stay home with grandma, but we, because we needed to be there at like six thirty in the morning when the news crews showed up we just stayed.

Sean: [00:05:09] We were there. So the point of it is. But there’s nothing to do in Tacoma, 

Torie: [00:05:14] but we had an adult night. We had no kids, we got to go do some stuff. Right? 

Sean: [00:05:17] So we, we actually, we went 20 minutes north to Clarkesville, Georgia Clarksville has all kinds of cool restaurants and things to do, and they have one of the largest antique malls and wound up going in there. Something to do again, not a whole lot of things to do. So, you know, going through an agency model is what we ended up doing. But we go through there and we wind up walking to the back section and I don’t think we ever even went to the back section. 

Torie: [00:05:41] We  went into like a little bit of the back section, but there was like some street signs and there were some gas pumps back there who were like, man, it’s actually like, it’s kind of big back here.

Sean: [00:05:52] Yeah. So we will go around the corner and we’ll find this, like inside the back part, it’s just. Big empty space for the most part. There’s some junk in there, but it totally looked like it was not being utilized to its fullest potential. And I’m like, this would be cool. This is where Miles Through Time was.

Torie: [00:06:10] That would be so awesome. Or like, yeah, it could be, oh, you guys, 

Sean: [00:06:15] That was, that was. Really, but a year later with wanting to move there, which is absolutely mind blowing, 

Torie: [00:06:22] not like Sean was like, hey, I remember that place. And like went and researched it. It just, 

Sean: [00:06:28] No, I, I didn’t, I didn’t even think of it ever being a possibility too, to go there a year later.

Torie: [00:06:35] It just it happened. It happened why? Because Sean opened his mouth because Truett opened his mouth and wasn’t afraid to talk to people about just what they wanted. They had no idea how to make it happen. They just knew that stuff had to happen. And when you talk about things, when you ask you, even if you ask people like you’ve gotten good at asking people for help, as it turns out, people want to help people want to be a part of things.

And if you don’t ask them, then they don’t know that you even needed help with things with the museum. Like. Every week. I am surprised at just some of the generosity, some of the, the relationships that you’re building there, that people have really just come out and support Sean and if Sean didn’t open his mouth, like people wouldn’t know that Sean needed help.

Sean: [00:07:21] That is it’s literally everyone that I talk to they’ll know my entire passion and story and vision for the museum. If they stand there long enough, listening to me, I’ll tell every single person, you know, what we did and what we want to do as a museum. Without actually being able, able to even do it yet.

You know, there’s stuff that involves expansion and having all kinds of things. And I have no way of actually being able to do that at this moment. But it’s going to happen. And I’ll let everybody know. And, and you know, who knows what happens from there? Plus it keeps it top of mind again, like I, that is what I want to do.

Torie: [00:08:04] I think, for your business, for your family, for like personally, just kind of like what you want, like for Sean and I, we see, and you know, you’re just talking about it yesterday. Maybe it was Friday. Sean was like, we were at the gym, we were walking out and he pointed out this guy that was on the treadmill. Tell me about that guy. 

Sean: [00:08:23] So the dude, the 75 year old that they got is I mean his, his arms are impressive for 20 years. He’s fantastic. 

Torie: [00:08:32] He is in just such amazing shape and he’s got a t-shirt on that, on the back, says that he is 75 plus and a, 

Sean: [00:08:41] I still kicking up dust, just not as much. And where’s a Vietnam veteran, huh?

Torie: [00:08:47] If that guy can do it, we can do it. I don’t want to be 50, 60, 70, and not be able to still get around and do things like if you see these people that are in really great shape when they’re that age. And obviously, you know, there’s no promises or that’s not going to mean that nothing’s going to happen, but if I can make those changes in my life and I can do the things that I want, and we can talk about that. That is what we want. Then we’re both on the same track that we’re going to make that happen. Like I want to be in really great shape. 

Sean: [00:09:19] Yeah. I, I mean, hands down, that is how I want to be. When I’m old. I don’t think of this. I’m going to get old and I can’t start. I’m too old to be doing things now that’s bullshit, but you can, you can keep doing stuff.

Torie: [00:09:33] I can remember seeing like some moms in high school that I know they had to be younger than I am right now. 

Sean: [00:09:39] And they were, they were flipped into an old person. 

Torie: [00:09:42] Gosh, like you would’ve thought now looking at it. I would’ve thought that they were like 65, 70 like they were really starting to have that grandma appearance, and I guarantee you, they were younger than I was, they weren’t grandparents. And they were probably not even old enough to really be a grandparent, but they like went in that like so soon, like it’s so strange. I don’t know. Have you seen that meme? That’s like J-Lo and it’s like. What 50 looks like now? Like what 50 look like in the eighties? And it’s like one of the golden girls or something like that like it’s crazy.

And I think that like, if you make that your, whatever it is for you, like if you meet that, your intention, that that is what you want, then that is what you’re going to get. If you don’t talk about it if you don’t get people on your side that are rude. I mean, both Sean and I. Like, like you want to do that.

I want to do that. Well, cool. We’re going to do that together. Now we’re a team and then we can find other people that they want to do that too. We’re all in at the gym all the time with people that are like that. There’s people doing my classes and this is like serious, like weightlifting that are older than I am women. And they’re so strong and I want to be strong like them. You know, so by talking about these things, not only are you allowing people to help you, are you allowing people to support you, but you’re going to find other people who want to do that same stuff, and then you have the team and that’s, but teamwork makes the dream work. Like you can really make anything happen. 

Sean: [00:11:08] So that’s one of my favorite things about Facebook is the Facebook memory. Yeah. So not only to be able to see the kids and all that kind of stuff, the photos that I take that I may have never seen again if it wasn’t for Facebook to show me my own memories, but  I’ll post something out there that is meant for nobody to really care that I post it out there.

I am literally doing so that I can see my own memory and that’s a, you know, I want a specific car or we want to go somewhere or do something or a business milestone or whatever the case may be. I’m sharing that thing for me. Like I want to see it and I there’s, there’s been multiple times now where I get to go back on the Facebook memory and go leave. Check that one off, check that one off. And that’s such a cool feeling that keeps it going, that I want to keep doing more than that. You know, and if somebody sees it and is on, on board with you know, either making it happen or they want to do it too, you know, great. Like let’s, let’s do this. 

Torie: [00:12:10] Well, even like the Tesla world record, like Sean was just because both of us have said, like, wouldn’t it be super cool to have a world record, whatever it is like that would just be like a bucket list type of thing.

That would be like a cool thing to like, look back on your life. And you’re like, wow, I’m 75 and I’m totally buff and I’ve got a world record, like, cause those are both like some cool things that we both think that you could look back on. And so Sean was looking through and trying to find some that he could do.

And so you found a couple and one of them was this Tesla record that had been okay. I don’t remember. It’s been a while now, a hundred and eighty eight forty five. Okay. So 1 45, the most Teslas at one time. And then there’s all these rules about how far two miles of Teslas within however many feet of each other.

Like it has to be full on parade, right? But there’s a couple of ways that this could have gone. Sean could have went like, cool. We could have done that and kept it to himself. He could have been like, nah, that’d be a lot of work. He kept it to himself. There’s like all these ways that he could have kept them to himself.

And instead he was like, Hey Torie look what I found 145 Teslas. I think we can beat that. And you know what I said, Hell yeah, we can beat that. I’m on board. I’m the cheerleader and a supporter. Yes. Let’s like try to do that. Sean had to say it out loud. And then what did you go? Do you posted a Tesla world record and you get the ball moving by saying things out loud by getting other people involved.

Sean: [00:13:41] Was literally that quick. There’s no delay. It was look at this record. Should we do that? Hell yeah. Anybody want to do this record? And then it was no turning back. During the COVID.  

Torie: [00:13:57] People needed it during the COVID. I had so many people there’s people that traveled from out-of-state that came out there. This is December of 2020. And you know, we were all out in a parking lot. So it’s not like, you know, we were doing anything too spectacular. We were like staged in a parking lot and people walking around and everything. But people needed to get out. What an amazing opportunity that we had just because Sean decided to go for it, to say it out loud, to make it happen.

And we made it happen, but there’s really not much else to it, but we’re really good about not saying that we’re going to do everything that we don’t mean. And so I think that there is something that like, you gotta be careful about putting too many things out there and saying, you’re gonna do. Knowing that you’re not going to do them.

I didn’t even know these people. They say, join the military, joining the military. They’ll go around and tell everybody, but you know, they’re not going to do it. And I know, you know, this people there’s a few people we know that they say they love to travel, but for some reason we’ll not go anywhere if they’re invited.

So speaking things. Speaking out these things that you want to happen. Like, you need to be careful with what you say and say the things that you really want, because if you’re always spouting off stuff that you don’t really need or that you don’t really want to happen. I think it loses is that, that magic 

Sean: [00:15:16] it’s kind of the cry Wolf at that point, versus you, you say stuff and then people start seeing that, like you’re actually doing these things like that’s pretty awesome because then people could get excited too. They’re like, oh, they shared something else they’re going to do in the future. Let’s see it happen. 

Torie: [00:15:32] Right? Yeah. It kind of makes me think too. Now looking back like that, I joined the army. I wonder if people. She’s just one of those people that said she’s going to join. I fucking left. 

Sean: [00:15:43] The thing is, do you know anybody that, that you know, your, your joining motivated them to do something similar? Because for me, I really left for me. It did. I brought it in. Six or seven different kids from my school after I had joined the Tesla record event, we’ve got, we did it. And now locally, so, or semi, locally, BMW is doing it. And Mercedes is doing it the exact same record, but for a different model maker, a vehicle, which I mean, chances are, they may have never even known it, but it wound up seeing that we were doing it and then they want to do it for whatever. Purposes that they’re doing it for. And really, if there’s no purpose who cares, it’s something to do. 

Torie: [00:16:24] It was cool just to get out and meet people. Into the same things you are, and you never really know who is going to be brought out in some of these adventures. And it’s amazing. Some of the people that we’ve met people come up to us all the time now and like they know us from, you know, videos are doing this.

I had people find me on Instagram. It was like, I knew I knew you from somewhere. And it’s from doing these things. Just being able to put yourself out there a little bit more, like talking about what you want. Because talking about it is how you’re going to make it happen. So I’m going to this blowing out candles and keeping your wish to yourself. If you want things to happen, you need to talk about. 

Sean: [00:17:04] Absolutely. 

Torie: [00:17:05] So we have new shows every Tuesday and Thursday, and we would love it if you would come back and join us. And of course, all of our episodes are on YouTube. They are on Toriemathis.com, along with lots and lots of resources for you to build your business and be smarter about how you market yourself, and use your time and money more wisely.

And if you wanted to just listen to our episodes, we are also on all of the different podcasts. So we would appreciate it. If you were joining us, we’d love to have you along for one of our journeys. We’ll see you on the next one. Thanks.

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